Wednesday, October 7, 2015

Older Parent Adoption

My friend Wendy (an adoptive Mom) says “you spend your 20’s trying not to get pregnant, your 30’s trying to get pregnant and when you hit the 40’s, decide to adopt.” 

When we started looking into the adoption process some 15 years ago, the information we received from the local department of social services, specifically mentioned that families over forty years of age could not adopt infants. Thank goodness times have changed. It is now common place for couples in their forties to adopt. Most adoptive families range in age between thirty-something to their upper forties. 

In a traditional domestic adoption program, adoptive families are waiting to be matched with birthparents. This can take anywhere form 3-18 months to get matched. Most adoptive parents successfully complete an adoption in 1-2 years. Families who are more open in the criteria of the child they hope to adop have shorter waits. For example, Caucasian families open to adopting an infant that is biracial or African American may have shorter waits than those who want to adopt a child of the same race. 

There are certainly some bright spots and advantages to parenting at an older age. Canadian researcher, Dr. Elinor Ames, who has done extensive research on children adopted from Romania, concluded that younger parents experienced more stress than older parents. It should also be noted that the children in her studies who had  the most favorable outcomes were in the group who had the older parents!  Her summary concluded that they were better able to access resources. 

Advantages to older parent adoption include:

1. More life experience provides a better foundation to advocate for children’s needs. 

2. What you lack in energy you make up in smarts. 

3. More financially secure. 

4. May be more emotionally stable. 

5. More patience- you don’t sweat the little things as much. 

6. It keeps you in shape, picking up- carrying around, or chasing a toddler

7. Parenting keeps you young- you have to keep up with the latest in electronics -   texting, tweets, and more…

Tuesday, October 6, 2015

Feeling Different

Being adopted can create many feelings of being different. An adopted child may look differently than their adopted parents or they may be a different race or culture.  It is important that differences (real or perceived) be addressed by the adoptive family in a positive way. 

Sunday, October 4, 2015

Communicating with your baby

"You might think talking doesn’t start until your baby is older. In fact, babies communicate from birth through crying, eye contact and listening. When you talk and communicate with your "baby, you build baby’s language – and your relationship too."

Tuesday, September 29, 2015


We at Beacon House know that sometimes life does not happen just the way we plan it. If you are now experiencing a pregnancy that you did not plan for, you know that you have options. One of those options is adoption.

Adoption can be a difficult decision, but it is also a brave and unselfish act of love that gives life to an unborn child. Choosing adoption helps you create a family for your child with people who may not be able to build one on their own.  It is a way to provide the nurturing, love, and security that all children deserve. Because we believe that the confidential nature of adoption is paramount, Beacon House completes Semi-Open and Closed adoptions. The degree of openness or privacy is dependent on the needs and desires of the birth parents.

We know that this is a stressful time in your life as you make important decision about your future. Our Adoption Coordinator will explain the adoption process and is there to help you any way she can. Call 1-888-987-6300 to speak with an Adoption Coordinator or complete our Confidential Inquiry Form. 

Your confidential phone call or email will allow us to provide you with the information you need to make the best decision possible for your baby. 

Monday, September 21, 2015

Yes, I'm Adopted!

Yes, I'm Adopted!  by Sharlie Zinniger 

"Yes, adoption makes me special, it means that I am loved..."

"This brightly colored children's book illustrates how adoption is brought about by love. Written from a child's point of view, the rhyming verse takes you through an adoption journey from start to finish. It is perfect for anyone, young or old, whose life has been blessed by adoption."

Saturday, September 12, 2015

I am Alive

Before my teen had her own smartphone, she downloaded an Instagram account on my phone.  Being said owner of phone came with privileges: some might call them stalking rights. Occasionally, when boredom set in; in the carpool line, waiting at ballet, etc., I would scroll through Instagram. I learned a lot about the world of today’s teens. While a lot of it is good clean fun for some kids, for others it can be a superficial, sad, scary place to be.

One day I came upon a post. Written in the snow, by an acquaintance of my daughters, was a single statement: "I am Alive". Over a course of time, I had seen a number of pictures of this beautiful, talented, artsy, blue, haired girl. This one was different.  The statement, “I am alive” was commemorating the one year anniversary of the date that she had picked to commit suicide. Fortunately, she had changed her mind and on this day, chose to share this with the world.  I wept in disbelief and I tried to image what could be so terrible that a senior at the most prestigious, fine arts high school in the state could contemplate suicide.

Several months later, following the suicide of a teen, who was a classmate of a friends child, I called own my children’s high school.  I had seen increasingly disturbing post by a troubled young man.  All the tell-tell signs were there and I was concerned about his mental health and physical well-being. Occasionally I see this kid at school.  He has no idea who I am, and I have no idea if what I reported was able to help him or not. What I do know is that; he is alive, and for that I am thankful. 


Most likely your teen knows someone who is or has contemplated suicide.  Too often teens won’t tell and parents are unware or don’t want to interfere. If in doubt make the call, you may save a life. Today marks the end of Suicide Prevention week, but every middle and high school age child needs to be aware of the dangers, consequences, signs, and most importantly what to do.

If you or someone you know is preparing to end their life, please call: 1 (800) 273-8255. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline,  Hours: 24 hours, 7 days a week, Languages: English, Spanish,  Website:


Adoption and Suicide: Casey’s Story

The Girl Behind The Door: A Father's Journey Into The Mystery Of Attachment 

Adoption as a Risk Factor for Attempted Suicide During Adolescence

Adopted Kids Face Higher Suicide Risk

Monday, September 7, 2015


Friday, September 25, 10am-12pm
BHAS, 5917 Jones Creek Rd, Baton Rouge, LA

Lead by Adoption Educator, Linda Shreve, and Information and Media Specialist , Denise Hoppenhauer, this FREE adoption workshop will give you a thorough overview of BHAS's Domestic Adoption Program.

If you are in the South Louisiana or Mississippi Gulf Coast area and are considering adoption, this seminar will provide all you need to make an informed decision about how to adopt and what will work best for your family. Contact  for more information: