Eleanor Roosevelt said that “ a woman is like a tea bag - you can't tell how strong she is until you put her in hot water.” This is especially true if you put her in a position where one of the most fundamental elements of being a women are denied: motherhood and infertility are a few examples that come to mind.
I always say that “ whatever doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.” It would certainly apply to my path to Motherhood: infertility, IVF, a failed adoption, etc.. It can be disheartening, watching friends get pregnant, undergoing successfull fertility treatments, and adopting. It’s easy to give in to the anger, the sadness, the why me’s, and the poor me’s.
At times it might have been easier to give up, but that would not have helped me to reach my goal. The desire to be a Mother was stronger than the temptation to give up. I had to overcome many obstacles in my path to achieve this goal: finances and delays, were just a few.
One thing that I have learned is that adoption is a great lesson in faith and patience, the later not being high on my personal list of virtues. We are used to making things happen; things that are in our control, and this loss of control can be especially disconcerting; when our bodies, or medical treatment fail us.
So ask yourself: “Am I strong enough to go the distance?” You’ll probably find the answer is a resounding YES! Perseverance pays off and know that whatever obstacles arise they are not insurmountable. It may not be easy, and at times it might just stink, but I do believe that when the timing is right your baby will be yours, whether through adoption, or not.
Labels: Adoption Support, Domestic Adoption, Infertility, Mom's, Positive Words, Pre-adoption Education