It’s not unusual to
find one spouse ready to start looking at adoption before the other is ready.
During this time, it is important to keep the ones of communication open.
Acknowledge your spouses reluctance and discuss concerns openly and
If your spouse’s reaction is not what you had expected, they
may need more time or space to help sort out their feelings. It may be necessary
to slow down, regroup and move forward slowly.
Seek out others who have
adopted, or find an infertility or adoption support organization. Talking with
others who have been there and done that may be beneficial. Meeting children and
families formed by adoption may be just what they need.
that you may be ready to adopt are:
- The realization that actually being a parent
may be more important than how parententhood was achieved.
- Spending more time talking about
- Noticing more or seeking out adoptive
- You have exhausted viable, medical options
without success and no longer have the desire to pursue medical
- A feeling that a child waiting for you or
that God is calling you to adopt.
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