adopted can create many feelings of being different. An adopted child may look
differently than their adopted parents or they may be a different race or
culture. It is important that differences (real or perceived) be
addressed by the adoptive family in a positive way.
- Need to be assured that they
- Feelings of dual heritage, both
biological and adoptive need to be validated.
- Children need to understand
that while adoption is wonderful, that it also involves loss and grief.
- Children need reassurance that
their birth parent's decision to adopt was not about them.
- Need to understand that
adoption is an adult decision.
- Children need permission to
express their feelings about the adoption.
- Children need to deal with
their feelings of rejection and that absence doesn't mean
- Adoptive parents need to be
emotionally healthy role models.
- Children need to hear their
parents discuss their feelings about adoption.
- Adoptees must be able to grieve
- Attachment is imperative: children
must learn to give and receive love
involves loss. All members of the adoption triade are affected. Birth parents
experience the loss of a biological child. Adoptive parents may experience infertility
and the loss having a biological child and the biological child may experience
loss of birth parents, siblings, extended family, culture or country.
is a normal and natural response to loss. Working through grief will assist you
and your child In gaining acceptance and understanding. It will allow your
relationship to be healthier and stronger.
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